Should You Ever Tolerate Disrespect in Your Relationship?
No. You should never tolerate disrespect from your partner. That doesn't mean, however that you will never be disrespected. (This article is specifically for women who have male partners, but can relate to same sex partners as well.) Sometimes, just like you, he will have a bad day. Sometimes, when he feels bad inside, he will unconsciously project that onto you through blame, shame, belittling or passive aggression. He may be rude and say things that he will wish he took b
The Hole in My Heart
"No," terrified and oblivious to how my innocent decisions had led me to be naked in the back of some "nice guy's" truck at a remote lake, at night in northern Mexico. When we met that morning at the quaint bed and breakfast in Creel before the Copper Canyon tour, he was charming. Just like all the other Mexican men I'd dated over the past 5 months after my real Mexican boyfriend broke my heart. He said he wanted to show me a cool place and because I loved the attention, I sa
My First Real Valentine's Day
February 14, 2001 was my first REAL Valentine's Day. I was 22 years old in my first year of teaching in Torreon, Coahuila, Mexico. No computer, no cell-phone, no car. Just a young blond Gringa living abroad. I moved there to be closer to the love of my young life, yet we were still 13 hours away. Every long weekend I had, I hopped on a night bus with nothing but my backpack, some spare Pesos and the excitement in my heart. Every Mexico City weekend was so exhilarating, that